Knowing how to stop divorce is not difficult. Your chances of stopping it are extremely high if you are the one that asked for the divorce. Likely, your spouse did not want to separate in the first place and he or she would likely agree to continue the marriage.
However, you are going to have to apologize to your spouse and admit that your decision to end the marriage was wrong. What made you ask for the divorce? Were you in a rage? Were you not thinking straight? Did you believe it was a good decision but then realized you didn’t want a divorce in the first place? Whatever the reason tell your spouse and apologize.
If you feel that telling your spouse the real reason would hurt or offend them, then follow your conscience. It may not be a good idea to tell them why you wanted a divorce. Just apologize and start the healing.
After apologizing, explain to your spouse that you don’t want the divorce after all and you wish to repair the relationship. You may find this difficult, but you are just going to have to swallow your pride and do it.
If it was your spouse that initially wanted the divorce then you may have to work a little harder. It’s not impossible, but it will take some work. Don’t worry! If it is meant to be you will save your marriage.
You likely have already explained to your spouse that you think the marriage is worth saving. You will have to continue on this track. You’ll have to continue to repeat this message. However, the way you have this conversation can make all the difference.
First, you don’t want to come across as needy, immature and frustrated. These characteristics will like only confirm to your spouse that the divorce was a good idea. Do your best to maintain the four C’s: remain calm, cool, collected and confident.
By doing this you will avoid pushing them further away from you and you may even begin to attract them back.
Next, you are going to have to prepare yourself to work on your problems. You may have been reluctant to do so until now. No one is perfect and everyone has room to improve. Suck it up and start taking steps to become a better person. This will help you in all your relationships.
Here are some more crucial steps you need to master to stop your divorce.